I want to share my story with you…
Life was good, everything was going well until something bad happened. My house caught fire and I lost both my parents. It was a very sad time for me because I already lost my favourite grandma last year. Suddenly I was an orphan. I felt angry and all I could think of was why did this happen to me?
At that moment I didn’t feel strong enough to pull myself up. All I could ask was, “Why me, why me, why me?” The more I asked “why me?” the worse I felt. Being negative was making things worse.
Suddenly an idea sparked in my head. When my grandma died I was sad but I started to feel like my happy self again with the help of my friends. So if I survived before I could survive again, right? YES, THAT WAS RIGHT! I began feeling strong and confident just from thinking positive thoughts in my head and saying them out loud. I started remembering all the difficult situations I had been in before. Each time I fell, I always got back up again. Why should this time be different?
You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have. After the funeral I went to live with my aunty and uncle and they’ve been amazing support ever since. They helped me understand that my anger at the world was normal but there comes a time when I must rise again. And I did!
My aunty also taught me a mantra I could use to encourage myself. Everyday I would say, “If I did it before, I can do it again: I am strong. I am a survivor. I am unstoppable.”
After a few months of repeating this every day, I began to feel better and stronger. That’s the key to progress; you have to believe in yourself and be confident. So the next time you find yourself in a tough situation or feeling very sad, here’s what to do:
Remember a time in the past when you succeeded. Give yourself a chance because If you survived before you will survive again.
Memorise some positive words and recite them when the self-doubt starts creeping in.
Seek support from family and friends. They will help you focus on the good things you still have rather than what you’ve lost. Most importantly, always remember that you are stronger than you think. Never forget that.